 A
Note From Mary
 “That’s not fair!” I’m certain you’ve heard—or will
hear—those words many times before your kids
leave the nest. If you’re like me, you probably
try to keep things as fair as possible.
I confess to making sure we spend about the same
on each child and that each has the same number
of gifts to open on
Christmas. When I split a soda between my two
children, I try to do so evenly. But when it
comes to other mothering matters, I’m
discovering that being “fair” really isn’t fair
at all--simply because the concept fails to
recognize that different kids have different
needs.
I have one child who’s an introvert and one who’s an
extrovert. I have one child who needs more sleep
than the other. I have one who is more
interested in organized sports than the other. I
have one who likes to wrestle and one who likes
to sit quietly with me. How fair would it
be to treat these kids the same?
My resolution for 2006 is to meet my kids where
they are, not to treat them “fairly” in the New
Year. This requires taking the time to ask
myself what each child needs—and to create a
plan for providing it. If you’d like guidance
regarding how to do this for your own family, be
sure to read the details below about the
upcoming “mominar” titled Developing a
One-Page Mothering Plan for the New Year.
Remember, being “fair” often requires us to
treat our children differently rather than the
same. It seems counter-intuitive, but when you
mother your kids the way they need to be
mothered, rather than treating them “fairly,”
you’ll find your Mother Load is lighter.
And, more importantly, your children will
benefit in the long run.
Strengthening families by encouraging moms,
Mary Byers
TeleSeminar
Join us January 19th for
the “Developing a One-Page Mothering Plan
for the New Year” TeleSeminar
Please note the date change!
During this call, you’ll learn:
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About the power of focus
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How lowering your expectations actually helps you be
more effective
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Why a one-page plan leads to peace of mind
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What questions to ask to develop your own plan
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How having a plan makes a difference in your mothering
In addition to the above, you’ll get a handout,
complete with a sample “One-Page Mothering
Plan.”
When you register, you’ll receive an e-mail with
call-in information.
This Mominar will take place at
9:00 p.m. Eastern time; 8:00 Central; and 6:00
Pacific Time. This teleseminar will last one
(1) hour.
Cost: $15 to reserve your space on the call.
(Please note that you may incur long-distance
phone charges when you call in. If you have a
“free nights and weekends plan,” it’s a good
idea to use it!)
If you’ve never participated in a teleseminar,
here’s what to expect. You’ll call an assigned
telephone number at the appointed time. You’ll
be asked for your access code, which will be
provided when you register. We’ll begin the
Mominar promptly. During the teleseminar, moms
across the country will be connected, live, as
we discuss Developing a One-Page Mothering Plan
for the New Year. You’ll have the opportunity to
do some personal “homework” while we’re on the
call, ask questions, and begin writing your own
plan. When we’re done, it’s my hope that you’ll
have a new sense of purpose as you look ahead to
the New Year.
If you’d like the company of a friend on the
call—and the benefit of an accountability
partner for 2006—why not call a friend and ask
her to register for the call as well? You’ll
both benefit, and so will your kids!
Click Here to Register for the Teleseminar
A
Favor
One of my goals for 2006 is to increase the
readership of this e-zine by 1,000 women. I
know that the only way I’ll be able to do this
is with your help. Would you do me a favor?
Would you take a minute to think of a friend
who would benefit from reading “Lightening the
Mother Load” every month and forward this
e-mail to her with a note encouraging her to
read this month’s issue? I’d really appreciate
your help!
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Christian Authors Blog
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a group of about 40 writers who write both
fiction and non-fiction. You can learn more at
www.christianauthorsnetwork.com. If you’re
interested in learning more about writing, or
the writers who are producing today’s
Christian books,
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A different author posts each day.
Sanity
Saver:
Get in the habit of asking, “May I think about
it and get back with you?” when you are asked
to do something. This will give you time to
check your calendar and consider all of your
other obligations before you take on a new
assignment. Doing so is a great way to keep
yourself---and your schedule---sane!
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December 26, 2005
Lightening the Load
eZine published by Mary Byers, Author of
The Mother Load
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